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Vulvodynia = pain sensitive itching

Vulvodynia is difficult to speak about, yet necessary to talk about in order to get help and spread awareness.  Millions of women suffer from this awful problem that can be debilitating and unbearable mentally and of course physically.

If you have never heard of this health issue, just imagine this.  Your vaginal area, better known as the Vulva, has chronic, sometimes shooting sharp pain, severe redness with extreme sensitivity, there can be itching that can keep you awake at night, and wearing underpants is very uncomfortable.  If that is not enough, your sex life is on HOLD for the most part, your work life is severely affected and just getting dressed is a big deal because nothing feels good against your sensitive vulva.

Now that I have your attention, let’s add onto this with the fact that your Doctor can’t help you most of the time, even after 3 or more visits and it can take them a year to give you this diagnosis, after which time they still can’t help much. They will try pills, and irritating chemical laden “creams and ointments”, then they will try all of those all over again or maybe throw in one they didn’t try on you yet.  At this point you switch Doctors because it is ridiculous that they can’t help you, and it starts ALL OVER again.  Meanwhile, you are itchy, sore, and in a really bad way.  Every day life becomes burdensome, depression sets in, life can be miserable with this medical issue.

In the late 90’s I personally had the sharp pain in vulva and upper inner thigh area for some time, but I did not suffer with redness, or itching because I formulated my own “wash”/soap and balm.  Since the internet was in infancy stages, I found nothing online to help me.  I had seen my gynecologist and he referred me to a Neuro Dr.  who gave me prescriptions for pain meds, which i never filled.  Band aiding a painful problem has never made sense to me.   I went to a chiropractor for a neck pain issue and after a few chiropractic adjustments the pain in my groin seemed to narrow down, and then disappear after a month. A wonderful side effect of the neck pain!  It has come back here and there, especially when I exert myself, but does not stay more than a few days, thank goodness.

Most women are not in my “boat” and have it much worse because of the intensity and pain, plus the duration can be months to years.

There are some good books that were written, and youtube videos that you can watch. I have read the books and watched the videos, as well as read hundreds or more posts on FaceBook Groups plus my own customers accountings of this problem.

If I may save you some time? I can give you a pretty good synopsis of what helps, what doesn’t and a few support groups you may want to join.  FaceBook has 3 groups with Vulvodynia sufferers.  There is the (National Vulvodynia Association), and also the (Vulva Pain Society)

Anti-biotics don’t work, because Vulvodynia is NOT an infection and it is not contagious.  If you take the antibiotics, you will probably get a yeast infection.

Cortisones cause MORE damage to tissues (thinning) and a host of other health issues, your delicate V area deserves better PLUS they don’t work.  Most topicals that are prescriptions have strong preservatives and alcohols, this will NOT help you.  Topical lidocaine should never be put near your lady parts.  Here are the ingredients for topical lidocaine.   *Each gram of Lidocaine HCl 3.88% Cream contains Lidocaine HCl USP 38.8%. Inactive Ingredients include: Calcium Acetate, Ceteareth 20, Cetearyl Alcohol, Glycerin, Methylparaben, Mineral Oil, Petrolatum, Propylene Glycol, Propylparaben, Purified Water, Sodium Phosphate Monobasic.  Here are the lovely side effects:   Lidocaine Topical Side Effects  severe burningstinging, or irritation where the medicine was applied;swelling or redness;sudden dizziness or drowsiness after medicine is applied;confusion, blurred vision, ringing in your ears; or unusual sensations of temperature.

Nearly all soaps-cleansers at the stores are toxic and loaded with perfumes-dyes-parabens-alcohols-toxins.  These will cause your vulva MORE problems.  You need a pH balancing all natural cleanser or soap.   SOOOOO…. If your bar of soap is DOVE Beauty Bar , it contains…..Sodium Cocoyl Isethionate  Stearic Acid  Sodium Tallowate (animal fat)  Water  Sodium Isethionate  Sodium Stearate  Cocamidopropyl BetaineSodium Cocoate and/or Sodium Palm Kernelate  Fragrance  Sodium ChlorideTetrasodium EDTA  Trisodium Etidronate  BHT  Titanium Dioxide (CI 77891)Sodium Dodecylbenzene Sulfonate

MOST toilet paper is chlorine bleached. Yikes. Get TP that is not toxic.  Seventh Generation makes one

Your Underwear has to be cotton, not polyester which causes irritation sweating and bacteria.

Don’t wear sweaty damp yoga pants or tight pants

SLEEP with nothing on your bottom at night

Take vitamin D gel capsules daily

Take sitz baths with warm water and a cup of apple Cider Vinegar 2-3 X a week

If urination stings, try drinking a cup of water with 1/2 TBSP baking Soda mixed in

Menopausal Women, Atrophic Vaginitis,  or  thyroid issues: Keeping the Vulva area moist is a challenge at times in a womans life.  Simple things like “walking” become irritating when you have no “glide or slip” in the labia vulva area.  And then there is “sex”, which is miserable with a dry vulva / vagina.  You can suffer for days afterwards!  Through your diet, you can really help with “moistness”.  Try eating foods with cayenne, ginger and turmeric.  Teas or tinctures of marshmallow root and also slippery elm (amazing) will help within 24 hours. After a week, you may find that you are that youthful wet girl you used to be.  (LOL).

If you have not heard about my V products, then take a look, please! I formulated and packaged these special lady products on
Vulvodynia Vulva red sore

Many women have gotten help by using Vaginal Dilators to gently stretch the muscles and dilate the tissues so that there is less pain or no pain during intercourse/sex.  An acupuncturist has been helpful to women as well and it is safe, natural, and has no negative side effects. The Acupuncturist can also administer to you a Vitamin B1 shot in the area of your pain, and some women swear by it to relieve the pain.

Traditional OBGYN’s will want to treat you with Estrogen, and they rarely have a suggestion of what to wash and care for your Vulva area with.  This is where and why drugs alone don’t work. They are treating half of the problem, and not addressing the redness, irritation, itching.  If you combine my products with your Dr. visits, then I believe you will have excellent results, rather quickly, than just the Estrogen alone.  It has worked for thousands of other women, why not you?

Looking for a high quality and safe set of Vaginal Dilators?  This company is well known and has excellent products for Vulvodynia and Vaginismus, click here to go to VuVa Vuvatech    Women in Menopause that are suffering with vaginal atrophy, benefit greatly from Vaginal Dilators when used with my Balms for the lubrication.


Wee, Vaginismus is a condition that makes sexual intercourse, or gynecological exams and even tampon useage painful, if not completely impossible.

The condition occurs when trying to insert an object such as a tampon, penis or exam speculum into the vagina.

The pain experienced during Vaginismus is caused by the involuntary contraction of the pelvic floor muscles – specifically called the pubococcygeus or PC muscle group, leading to  muscle spasm and temporary cessation of breathing. Secondary to pain, women may be unable to insert tampons or undergo a gynecologic exam.

For some women, the vaginal muscles involuntarily or persistently contract when they attempt vaginal penetration. This is called vaginismus. The contractions can prevent sexual intercourse or make it really painful.

This can happen when

  • as your partner attempts penetration
  • when a woman tries to use a tampon
  • when a woman is touched near the vaginal area

Vaginismus doesn’t interfere with your sexual arousal, but it prevents actual penetration/intercourse

Usually, gentle pelvic exam typically shows no cause of the contractions. No physical abnormalities contribute to the condition.

Sadly, sexual dysfunction can occur in both males and females and can usually be treated. It’s not your fault, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. Nevertheless, these disorders  interfere with your relationships and sometimes quality of life.

Experts don’t know exactly how many women suffer from vaginismus, but the condition is considered to be uncommon.


When a woman has vaginismus, her vagina’s muscles squeeze or spasm when something is entering it, like a tampon or a penis. It can be mildly uncomfortable, or it can be painful.

Involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles is the primary symptom of vaginismus, but the severity of the condition varies between women. In all cases, constriction of the vagina makes penetration difficult or impossible. If you have vaginismus, you can’t control or stop the contractions of your vaginal muscles.

Vaginismus can have additional symptoms, including fear of vaginal penetration and decreased sexual desire related to penetration. Women with vaginismus often report a burning or stinging pain when anything is inserted into the vagina.

If you have vaginismus, it doesn’t mean that you’ll stop enjoying sexual activities altogether. Women who have the condition can still feel and crave sexual pleasure, and have orgasms. Many sexual activities don’t involve penetration, including oral sex, massage, and masturbation.

There are exercises and at home vaginal dilator therapy a woman can do that can help, sometimes within weeks.


Painful intercourse is often a woman’s first sign that she has Vaginismus. The pain happens only with penetration. It usually goes away after withdrawal, but not always.

Women have described the pain as a tearing sensation or a feeling like the man is “hitting a wall.”

Many women who have vaginismus also feel discomfort when inserting a tampon or during a doctor’s internal pelvic exam.


Doctors don’t know exactly why Vaginismus happens. It’s usually linked to anxiety and fear of having intercourse. But it’s unclear which came first, the vaginismus or the anxiety.